The forth part of REGI training session for social work professionals and teachers took place on 31th of January 2017. It was led by Pille Murrik, a lecturer at Tallinn University Rakvere College, psychotherapist and trainer in Gordon Family School. The training was focused to following keywords: systematic thinking, preparedness to go along with changes and flexibility.
"Life has shown that very often in case of problems people will start to resolve them immediately - in fact, without in-depth understanding, about which some sort of problem talks. And so it may take a lot of time and resources without the working solutions. Teachers, social educators and social workers who have contact with families who have either gone to Finland or come back to Estonia, or to somewhere else country, or is one of the parents working in Finland, - have met the problems too.
We tried to look at these problems in the systematically, based on Dilts’ pyramid, that is to look at what kind of change will bring some change, or how does it infulence child’s indentity or parents’ idenity. It is understandable that both the difficulties and coping with them depend very much on people's beliefs, attitudes, values, how they perceive themselves, what skills they have.
And the emotional climate of the family is very important, how the family members communicate with each other, how is the communication with the child, is the child involved, and how the child gets closeness, attention, and emotional support. And any changes influence precisely these factors too.
We focused on a practical side, using a variety of active learning techniques, practical exercises and sharing of experiences using. We reviewed the situation in different positions – through the eyes of a teacher, a parent, a child, a social pedagogue and social worker. It was found that the child's basic message is: "Notice me, be there for me." A child needs a contact, closeness and attention.“ explained Pille Murrik.
Participants of the training pointed out that replacing positions consciously was very useful, because it helped them to take a time and step out from the situation and to see the whole picture and to understand what are the needs of child and a family. Understanding is important, not condemnation.
While the professional is able to think systematically and to see on what level the problem is and where to direct and focus the energy, then a lower resource consumption can actually produce better results - problems are reduced and systematic thinking is also very important for the prevention of problems.
The feedback from the social work professionals participating in the training was very positive and acquired knowledge can be applied in their everyday work. Most experts said that more and more incidents / problems appear in their work, which fit to the theme of REGI project. It was found that thanks to the practical form the training day it was certainly more effective as they had to think along actively.